Bond

When God presents us with our true love who makes us happier than we have ever been, we think of their presence, night and day. We cannot imagine what the world would be like without them. We smile from ear to ear. Tell our families of their amazing attributes. Count the number of ways we are absolutely made for each other. And though it appears our foundation is rock solid, we brace ourselves, for we realize the foundation for which we stand is not as sturdy as we had hoped.

All relationships can be challenging. No two people are alike. So when we come together, with our array of personalities, and past setbacks in life which have eroded what little identity we have left, it becomes difficult to carry the weight of a relationship along with our baggage, to say the least, no matter how beautiful the event may seem. As I write, I feel like a broken record… For I say continuously, every aspect, in my life, I have given over to God to make better, only because, I know he can. In the business world, they say when you present an idea…, a thought, do not say, “I think this would be a good idea.” Say, “You know…,” or better yet, say, “It is…,” and stand on your word with confidence. In John 14:6, God said “I am the way and the truth and the life.” He did not say he felt as though this was his position in life, but emphatically, he is the way to the Father. And this I believe. On everything which turns bleak in my life, I stand firm, and continue to believe God’s word. If not out of desperation, then because, He tells me, “It is good.” You see, if we pay attention, God will teach us, and test our relationships. And it is in these tests, again, if we are attentive, he shows us how to live a better life, and endure the gifts of love which he has graciously bestowed upon us. Through our test, our integrity is put on trial. So, when we are in situations that become intense, do we take it out on our spouse, or should we take the high road and forgive? When God shows us the need to change within our own selves, should we make those changes within? Or should we react stubbornly, because we are too proud to change? Or, for that matter, do we simply turn our backs on change because we cannot believe, it is us, who, need the change? Usually, we go on, trying (operative word), to change the circumstance in our own strength, rather than handing it over to God. But, what we should do is engage in life, no matter how tiresome. For what is life if we do not participate. With every strength received from our merciful God, we should raise our hands and say, “Here God, I’m giving it to you.”  And then go on to celebrate our own change, without another thought to the once tiresome situation we handed over to God. It baffles me why we think it is much easier to battle it out, than to simply give it to God.

When we see God’s hand working in our life, and we know he has placed this individual in our life, separation is not an option. Whether it be your spouse, your mother, your sister, or your brother, separation is not an option. When the circumstances begin to change, after letting go completely, because separation was not an option, we have the privilege of receiving the miraculous gift from God. The gift of restoration. But we must be patient. We must endure. We must believe. We must listen to the still voice of God urging us to be patient. We must listen to the still voice teaching us patience. Showing us who we are in the big scheme of it all. The voice telling us we are important. Telling us we are loved, if we only give it a moment to manifest. The voice which tells us, “I’m working on it….,” “Just be still….” The voice which ask, “Do you trust me?” The voice which says, “I love you.”

Separation is not an option, for we know, “God works for the good of those who love him” (Romans 8:28).

CWB